Death - Grief - Mourning And Bereavement

The impact of death, grief and bereavement has different effects for different people. Some cope with the loss of a loved one in a variety of ways. Even though, it may be a very difficult period, some people actually find some kind of personal growth during the grieving process. It may give them time to think about their own life and an urgency to improve themselves to live a more purposeful life in the event that they should face death also. There is absolutely no correct way in coping with death, grief and bereavement. A persons personality has a lot to do with the process of grieving coupled with the quality of the relationship with the person who has died.

Anna Nicole Smiths mother did not have a good relationship with her daughter, but it may have been the daughters choice because her grief was evident during the recent trial. I am not sure it was possibly the guilt of not having had the opportunity to say goodbye to her daughter or the fact that she missed her daughter. She may have been grieving even before Anna Nicole Smith had died because a distant relationship can also cause grief.

How a person copes with grief is affected by their life experience, the kind of death, any cultural or religious background, their own coping skills, the support systems that are in place, and the persons social and financial status.

Death, grief, bereavement, and mourning are intertwined words that are closely related to each other, but they have different meanings.

Death is the actual event that took place to initiate the grief of losing a loved one. Death is a final step to seeing, living with or communicating with the deceased. Death is a pronouncement of the end of life on earth and the commencement of mourning and loss.Death often brings back memories of other past losses and thus makes the grieving process more difficult.

Grief is the customary procedure of the reaction to the loss. The person experiencing the loss feels like they have had something taken away. Grief may be experienced mentally, physically, socially, or emotionally depending on each individual. Mental reactions may include anger, guilt, feelings of anxiety, sadness, and utter despair. Physical reactions can include sleeplessness, appetite changes, physical problems, or possible illness. Social reactions can include feelings of responsibility for other family members, having to communicate with family or friends, or going back to work. Like bereavement, the level of grieving is dependent on the relationship with the person who died, the circumstances surrounding the death of the loved one, and how close the person was with the person who died.

Bereavement is the initial period immediately after a loss before the actual grieving process takes place and it is the time when mourning begins to occur. The time that someone spends in the bereavement period depends on how attached the person was to the person who died, and if there was any anticipatory grief period involved.

Mourning is the progression of adapting to the loss. Mourning is prone to individual cultural customs, spiritual rituals, and a partial societal rule for coping with loss.

A person must experience grief before resuming daily life. This is a period of making appropriate adjustments of getting used to being without the deceased and forming new relationships. This may initially bring some feelings of guilt, but will soon pass after valuable relationships are created. The person who is grieving must seek out others for emotional satisfaction. New identities, roles, skills, and lifestyles may change to adjust to living without the loved one who died.

No matter how we view death, grief, mourning and bereavement, the fact is that there is a loss and getting the proper support system in place is the key to recovery.

Cheryline Lawson is an author and mother of a lost child. She has written an ebook about her ordeal to reach out to others who have lost a loved one. For more information about the ebook, go to her website at http://www.coping-with-grief.com

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